|The following ideas may be helpful for
being an AYSO supportive parent.
Conversations before the games · Tell your child
you love him/her regardless of the outcome. · Tell him or her "Go for it, give it
your best shot and have fun!"
During the game · Understand that kids are
over-stimulated during games. The coach is yelling instructions, opponents and teammates
are talking, the crowd is cheering, and the referee is blowing the whistle. To a youth
sports participant the atmosphere is much like that of a fighter pilot with enemy jets
racing all around. Do not yell instructions to your child during the game, since it only
adds to the confusion. Sometimes the best thing you can do as a parent is to be quiet. ·
Cheer and acknowledge good plays by both teams.
After the game · Thank the officials for doing a
difficult job. · Thank the coaches for their efforts. Understand that after a difficult
loss is not a good time to question a coach. · Thank your opponents for a good game. ·
Congratulate your child and his or her teammates for their effort. · Compliment
individual players on good plays they made in the game.
During the car ride home · Point out a good play
your child made during the game. · Avoid criticizing or correcting mistakes. · Ask
open-ended questions about how the game was played rather than how many points were
scored. Examples of open-ended questions that might apply: "Did you have fun?"
"Did you give it your best effort?" "What did you learn from the
game?" "What was the best play you made and how did it feel?" " Did
you bounce back from your mistakes?"
AYSO recognizes the efforts and advancements made by the
Positive Coaching Alliance in Honor of the Game.
The Kids Zone Parent Pledge is adapted from Positive Coaching Alliance's Parent Pledge (http://www.positivecoach.org/)